The answer is… You already do! And if you’re reading this right now and thinking/saying to yourself, “I don’t talk to myself”, guess what, you just did! Studies show that POSITIVE self talk can boost your confidence, remove stress, better your physical and mental performance, even keep you healthier! NLP, Hypnotherapy and EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) are some of the tools which can be utilised to improve your self talk and indeed most areas of your life.
Say it with FEELING
It’s vitally important what you say to yourself and how you say it. You know the classic sitcom scene, Joey and Chandler in Friends comes to mind, Chandler says something to Joey and he gets offended. Joey then says it wasn’t what Chandler said, it was “the way he said it”. When communicating with others, we can change the entire meaning behind a particular phrase depending on how we say it. The same is true of the language you use in self talk.
Language is a powerful tool
Pay attention to the language you use to describe things, be they external to you- events, people etc- or internal- thoughts about yourself for example. Do you fly off the handle, shouting and swearing at yourself or things/people around you? If something annoys you, do you react by shouting/swearing about it? It’s good to let out your emotions no question, reacting in this way puts you in a negative state and impacts your overall mood (and indeed your physiology as science is starting to show). Try saying, “I’m really miffed about that!!” and see what happens… I bet you laughed to yourself right? This keeps you in a positive state! This is an example of how powerful language is.
Sounds too good to be true?
It might sound a bit ‘airy fairy’ and the like, but if we are aware of our internal dialogue, monitor it and modify it where necessary to focus on positive language, the changes can be profound! We can subconsciously hold ourselves back from the things we really want in life simply by talking negatively to ourselves. This limits our beliefs, our self esteem and the downward spiral continues. If we can utilise positive language when we talk to ourselves we are more likely to be happier, healthier and able to set positive goals for our lives! Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can be far more powerful…